There were some very good, though-provoking comments on my last post, and the discussion was going to get too long, so I decided to write another post. My friend Tammy was referring to this post I think, when she said that I bring this up a lot. I don't think I post about it very much, but it is an issue that I have thought about and discussed with my husband a lot.
Her comment brought a different dimension to the discussion: What about women who have forseeable complications, especially life-threatening? I know a family (the Lockwoods) who just came through a gravely dangerous pregnancy, and both mother and baby are doing well, thank the Lord. (Their blog is in my right column under missionaries, if you are interested to read their story.) It seems that God gave them sufficient grace to get through a difficult pregnancy, and He has truly blessed them.
I realize that every situation is different. But what I truly want to have, and provoke others to have, is the mind of God on the issue. Many, many couples use birth control because they don't think they can afford to have a baby, or they have plans for their life that don't include children. Some want to "space" their children out. Some just find pregnancy uncomfortable or inconvenient. (Incidentally, the sister I mentioned in this post has never had any complications, does not even get morning sickness, and hardly knew it when she went into labor.) I am talking about couples who are married, who are Christians and say they trust God, yet they lean on their own understanding when it comes to having children.